Individual & Couples Therapy and Workshops for Personal and Spiritual Growth
Relational Feng Shui is rooted in the wisdom of nature, drawing inspiration from ancient Chinese philosophy, Indian Tantric traditions, and the ancestral heritage of my homeland, Slovenia. Just as the earth seeks balance and every living system depends on the free flow of energy, our relationships, too, need space to breathe, grow, and regenerate. By reconnecting with these natural rhythms, we can begin to heal what has been wounded, restore balance where it has been lost, and cultivate relationships that nourish both ourselves and the world we share.The term feng shui (風水) comes from Chinese, combining two characters: feng, meaning wind, and shui, meaning water. Both speak to the movement of life and the subtle forces that shape our environment. In our relationships, too, we need movement, space, and fresh air, especially at a time when so many of us are caught in patterns that leave little room for genuine connection and growth.
About me
My name is Špela Gornik, and healing has been the guiding thread throughout my life. Not in the conventional sense of treating illness or healing the body, but through working with the deeper layers of the human experience: personality, spirituality, sexuality, and the energetic dimensions of our relationships.
My journey has taken me around the world, and for more than two decades, I have immersed myself in the study of ancient Chinese classics on the cultivation of sexual energy and the art of nourishing life (养生法). With a degree in Sinology, I bring together my understanding of classical Chinese wisdom and my background in relational therapy, drawing on both in my work with individuals and couples.
For me, intimate relationships are far more than the connection between two people. What we experience with a partner often reflects deeper patterns within ourselves, shaped by our personal histories, emotional wounds, embodied experiences, and spiritual lives. Couples therapy is therefore only the tip of the iceberg; beneath the surface lies the much larger journey of understanding ourselves, healing old patterns, and learning to relate differently, both to ourselves and to one another.
In 2024, I had the opportunity to bring my expertise to the popular television show Married at First Sight (Poroka na prvi pogled), where I worked as a relationship expert, helping newlyweds navigate the complexities of intimacy and lay the foundations for healthier, more conscious relationships.
Relational Fengshui
Shame, fear, trauma, and the pressures connected to a fast-paced lifestyle undermine one's capacity to love and be loved."
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I invite you to embark on a journey of Integrative Holistic Therapy, rooted in the intelligence of the sensuous. Relational Feng Shui is a grounded spiritual path toward clarity, integrity, and deeply loving relationships. It combines sex therapy and relationship counseling with alternative practices, focusing on cherishing your needs and boundaries.
It draws from Cross-Cultural Studies, Daoist and Sri Vidya Tantra, as well as trauma work, ancestral healing, recovery, and the latest discoveries in neurobiology. Its aim is to free individuals and couples from the constraints of psychological patriarchy, enabling us to learn how to embody true intimacy.
Sex is more than just genitals and orgasms. Sexuality encompasses self-esteem, body image, intimacy, touch, the past and the future, and openness to the power of Eros. Eros refers to passionate love, sexual desire, and emotional or physical attraction. It also symbolizes the life force or creative energy that drives human connection, creativity, and personal transformation, representing a deeper yearning for intimacy, pleasure, and the meaning of life.
During the coaching part of the session, you will have the opportunity to practice relating in a healing way, and then use these new skills with your partner.
"Only a person who is able to bridge the objective and the subjective, a person who is able to bridge the East and the West, a person who is able to bridge the materialist and the spiritualist, can be a whole person. The world is waiting for the whole human being. If the whole human being does not arrive soon, then there is no future for humanity. And the whole human being can come only through deep, profound intelligence." (Osho)
Let's heal sexuality from past influences and our culture's limited view by remembering our true power."
Testimonials
Adam
"Usual sessions with Spela include conversation and bodywork. However, sometimes I only need to talk with someone who is objective, understanding, who is not judging me and can help."
David
"I cannot praise Špela enough. She is utterly professional while also being empathetic. Absolutely non-judgemental, so there is no difficulty in opening up to her. Spela is to be recommended for anyone seeking spiritual healing by means of sensual discovery."
Anne
"As a side effect of once-weekly therapy sessions with Spela, I developed a multi-orgasmic response pattern."
Steve
"Spela is a trustful, nice, attentive, person who can create a very strong connection with people easily. I felt safe and secure with her. The world is more threatening and agressive than kind and peaceful so this is rare and precious to feel safe and surrounded by kindness. The experience was really positive for me, followed by many dreams and visions."
Sean
"Sessions with Spela were both healing and eye opening in terms of energy transformation- I feel like I've finally experienced something which was previously just a concept in my head."
Tantra is a path to befriending yourself by uncovering your essence beneath the masks of your everyday personality