Valentine's

Infatuation and mature love are not mutually exclusive. The former can grow into the latter, but it is not guaranteed—it may insist on remaining in first place in an individual's life at any cost.
The difference between the two was best described by the renowned German psychologist and sociologist Erich Fromm, who said:

 

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."

It doesn't matter who you are; what matters is me, and I need an object that will affect me like a drug. Dopamine and serotonin create euphoric feelings that make us want to be inseparable from our chosen partner. Since the part of the brain called the amygdala is less active, we are bolder than usual and fear only losing the object of our desire. The frontal lobe, which is responsible for judgment and intellectual reasoning, is also significantly less active than usual.

 

Mature love, on the other hand, says: "I need you because I love you."

Here, attachment comes into play, and it quickly reveals how it was formed in early years. Mature love enables secure attachment, which we must nurture ourselves with the help of oxytocin. This time, the whole brain is engaged, and the amygdala quickly reveals how many emotional wounds remain unresolved and how much resentment lingers in the air.
The brave choose to stay even after they have licked the honey off the cross. Why? Because a person is not an object, and the cross is not merely an item. It is also a symbol of faith in mature love, for to love means both looking each other in the eye (vertical) and looking in the same direction (horizontal). We can only truly look each other in the eye when we do not see ourselves as greater or lesser than the other.